"Just for this small moment! Just waiting for the train in a waiting room on a station, and creating so much fuss. Fighting, hurting each other, trying to possess, trying to boss, trying to dominate. And then the train comes and you are gone forever..."
One moment it was there, another moment it is gone. One moment we are here, and another moment we have gone... And for this simple moment, how much fuss we make, how much violence, ambition, struggle, conflict, anger, hatred. An explosive temper or a smoldering rage often masks a deep feeling of pain.
We think that if we frighten people away, we can avoid being hurt even more. In fact, just the opposite is the case! By covering our wounds with armor we are preventing them from being healed. By covering our wounds with armor we are preventing them from being healed. By lashing out at others we keep ourselves from getting the love and nourishment we need.
IT'S TIME TO STOP FIGHTING!
THIS PAIN IS NOT TO MAKE YOU SAD...
Remember!
That’s where people go on missing. This pain is just to make you more alert. Because people become alert only when the arrow goes deep into their hearts and wounds them. Otherwise, they don’t become alert. When life is easy, comfortable, convenient, who cares? Who bothers to become alert?
When a friend dies, there is a possibility. When your woman leaves you alone, those dark nights, you are lonely. You have loved that woman so much and you have staked all, and then suddenly one day she is gone.
Crying in your loneliness, those are the occasions when, if you use them, you can become aware. The arrow is hurting... it can be used. A time of great sadness is likely to be a great transformation. But for transformation to take place, we have to go deep into the root of our pain and experience it without blame or self-pity.
The pain is not to make you miserable, the pain is to make you more aware! And when you are aware... misery disappears!
There is so much love available to you if you just let it in.
Start by forgiving yourself.
You're worth it!
OSHO